Why you should live your life based on fear

BY  Louis M. Morgner
August 8, 2021

I believe fear is the biggest blessing we have in our life. Do you remember the last time you were scared? More importantly, do you remember the last time you faced your fear? The time you jumped from a cliff into the sea. That’s when you felt alive, happy and grateful. All at the same time. Present moments like these are rare. We get caught up in our busy lives and forget to live. Let fear be your compass for life without overthinking. But are you brave enough?

Your deepest desires lay on the other side of fear.

“Everything you’ve ever wanted is sitting on the other side of fear.” — George Addair

It’s strange to think about our wild dreams, bold visions and candid desires. There is this story we tell ourselves about what we seemingly want. We chase the dream of landing a prestigious job, being liked by the people around us and moving up the social ladder in our community. We all want to be liked, admired and appreciated by the people around us. We want to achieve something that makes the people around us proud. We want to prove our worth. But is that really our dream? Or is it rather a mere reflection of the values and attitudes of our social environment?

I am a firm believer that your deepest desires are placed on the other side of fear. Yet the problem is that most people are afraid to face that fear. Instead, they prefer being comfortable. Better safe than sorry. The fear of failing and being judged by other people usually wins over the deep inner desire you’re afraid to listen to. That’s why I try to live my life based on fear. I use fear as a compass that guides my journey throughout life. Whenever I’m facing a difficult decision, I try to listen to my inner voice and take the path that intimidates me. The path that scares me. Only by doing so, I am fully honest with myself and find the courage to believe in the things I want to achieve. Let fear be your compass in life while leaving the fixed reality you’re currently in behind. The question remains, what are you afraid of?

The only way to overcome your fear is just doing it.

“What would life be if we had no courage to attempt anything?” — Vincent Van Gogh

Alright, our deepest desires are placed on the other side of fear. But how can you overcome this fear and commit to the path that appears intimidating? The answer is surprisingly simple. Just do it. Yes, it might sound stupid but in the end, just taking the first step towards whatever you desire to do is what it takes to tackle even your deepest fears. Just do it.

Another truth that is important to realize is that there are no shortcuts. Of course, we all want to follow the easy way. Not going through the pain of failure and finding a shortcut that promises results faster without putting in the work. The truth is, shortcuts don’t exist. In the long-run, you need to put yourself through these experiences and learn. That’s an integral part of life’s journey and looking for shortcuts will only result in you being distracted in the short-run and neglecting actual progress in the long run. Screw shortcuts. Just do it.

Failure is inevitable.

“The struggles we endure today will be the ‘good old days’ we laugh about tomorrow.” — Aaron Lauritse

Okay, you overcame your fear and started doing. Great. But what is even more important than starting to do something is to stick to it even when roadblocks arise. And one thing is for sure, setbacks will come. If you’re not failing frequently, you’re not moving fast enough. What differentiates the people who constantly chase their dreams and the ones who give up is their approach to dealing with failure. Failure is inevitable. Instead of giving up, you need to adopt a mindset that frames failure as an opportunity to learn. According to Carol S. Dweck, the world’s greatest athletes see failure as a major power of motivation. Failing is part of the journey. That’s why you need to embrace failure without judgment.

The only way to be successful at something is by being willing to fail. Over and over again. Your level of success is determined by the number of failures you’re willing to go through. Thus, our relationship to failure needs to fundamentally change. Of course, failure is and should never be the goal. Yet, if we frame it as an opportunity to learn and grow it serves as a mediator for growth and success. Facing your deepest fears is the single best way to chase your deepest desires. This combined with the courage to take the first step and the positive interaction with failure is what makes the difference.

Everything you need is already within you.

“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.” — Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

The only thing that stands between your present self and your deepest desires is you.

You don’t need yet another book, speech or article on motivation to be motivated.

You don’t need the latest camera for content creation to create content.

You don’t need permission of your parents to quit your current job to start working on something that matters to you.

You don’t need any of those things. Everything you need is already within you. But for this, you need to trust yourself. You need to believe in your dreams and your ability to learn. Of course, it’s not going to be easy. But it shouldn’t be. You are the only person who is in charge of your life and every decision you take. Never blame your circumstances or environment. It’s you. And only you.

Make today count and start changing.

“Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Make it matter, as if it is your last.” — Anthon St. Maarten

Isn’t it nice to read an article or book and feel inspired to change something? Taking those minutes out of your busy day to get inspired. That feels exciting. So interesting to learn what other people are up to. But do you know what is even more exciting? Taking action. For real. Many people compensate their inaction through “learning” and “getting ready”. One day, of course you will start chasing your dreams. But not now. That day is still far in the future. But that’s exactly wrong. You need to take action. Today. Put yourself first, above anything you committed to. I know it’s difficult and daunting.

If you’ve made it to this point in this article, I want to challenge you. I want you to call a close friend and talk about your deepest desire. Tell your friend about your ideas. Your dreams. Your vision. Your fears. Tell your friend that you want to change something. And that you need their help. It’s their job to hold you accountable and ensure you’re not finding excuses. I want you to take this article as a starting point for changing something in your life. Don’t wait any longer. Call your friend, share your thoughts, and start doing.

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